Luck of the Irish

In the spirit of good ole saint Pattys day, I thought why not cherish all the good things life have to offer. Let's talk about realizing how lucky we truly are. First I’m going to start small, with what I am lucky to have in my life.

First off the small things tend to make me the happiest. Lets see if I can come up with an example… oh ok got it. So a couple of weeks ago I visited my best friends at school and throughout the trip when I got there they just made it feel so homey. One of my friends who was hosting went out of her way to buy food we liked and make it as comfortable as possible. Cleaning up, making sure we have blankets and pillows, giving space, sharing. Those little things get me, when it shows that they care and wanna make you as comfortable as possible. Being comfortable is something I struggle with which goes hand in hand with my anxiety, but thats or another time.

Another small thing that makes me feel lucky is when I am at the beach. The beach makes me feel some type of way I really do not know how to explain it. It makes me so happy and appreciate life to its full extent. Calms me down, and it truly one of the only places I could spend the whole damn day. I think everyone needs a happy place like that. A comfort.

I believe in life it can be very easy to find the bad things that go on and not acknowledge all the good. Sometimes I just think, thank god I have a home and food in my stomach because a lot of people do not have that. Yes I do not have everything that someone else might have but I am damn sure that I am extremely lucky to have what I have in my life. And I do think everyone should at least try to think in that manner.

Opportunities, as I grow older it allows me to realize how damn lucky I am to have so many amazing opportunities at the tips of my fingers. Let me explain, so last year as the whole world knows I transferred and I am so extremely grateful and lucky that I had the chance to transfer with my family and friends support. Having the option to change my life is not something everyone has the chance to play around with, and I mostly thank my parents for that option. Another opportunity I am lucky to have in my life is the power of dictating what my future entails. I have the freedom to choose what I want to be when I grow up. And if you asked me what I wanted to be kindergarten I would have told you “I wanna be a cooker and a singer” except I could not even pronounce cooker. Never let that one down. But now I look back on that moment and I think okay so maybe you won’t be a cooker and a singer but you now have the power to choose whatever the hell you wanna do. At that point in my life all the important people cheered me on, and guess what they’re gonna do it again even 15 years later. Yes I want to do something that makes me good money, as does everyone, but I truly want to do something I love. At the end of the day having a shit ton of money let me tell you would be nice but I could be unhappy. In my opinion that sure as hell is not worth it.

Anddddddd, this week I found out I was accepted into the business school. I know that is not pure luck, but dang was I happy it was something I have been working towards. Wow did it feel good to see all your hard work pay off. Soooo the business school (in my world) is the first step towards reaching for my dream job, aka being my own boss. Aka im choosing my future.. ahh the luck of the Irish.

My birthday is tomorrow too, and I am so lucky I can spend it exactly how I want. The plan is to go to Charleston and chill at the beach (my happy place), I will have to skip my classes (sorry mom and dad). But hey you only turn 20 once right! But the point is I get to choose how my day is spent and I have the chance to go to the beach and eat good food… ughhh yes. Chill birthdays are my fav. Just give me good friends, food, a little rose.

Anyways I am lucky to have my family, again I realize not everyone has this in their life. I just watched this showed with one of my roommates actually, it was interesting… but one of the main characters had no family support and she looked a bit broken from it. (As most would) It allowed me to sit back and be like ahhhh I have an amazing support system and people who truly love me. Does every family have their problems? Obviously, but again that is part of life.

Having support is so so so so amazing, I talked about it a bit in my friendships post but when people in your life check up on you, or just say hey I am here for you. Wowwwwww how my heart melts. It’s the little things that truly mean the most to me.

I don’t think most people realize but we never clearly see how lucky we are to dictate our future. Okay in some parts of life, or maybe even right now you might feel stuck, I am talking feet stuck in the mud cant I’m stuck in this small town, or I’m surrounded by terrible people, or when will I be pretty enough or skinny enough. Trust me I have been there plenty of times, but at the end of the day if you do not want to live your life like that then change it girl. Easier said than done, and it will take plenty of time, but once you get there you’ll look back and think damn am I lucky or what.

And the answer is yes you are very lucky because as cheesy as it is you were given this life and you deserve to live the life you want and dream about.

But at the end of the day you have to allow yourself to realize you have the power to change whatever the hell you want, because guess what you only have one life.

For most of my life I always thought I was so unlucky wondering why I did not have everything that others in my life have. Questioning why everyone looked so happy, or why their families and relationships looked so amazing. But not everything appears as it seems from the outside, as I am sure most of you know already. I would always say how I had the worst luck, especially one year when I was constantly sick and everything seemed to be going wrong. What I did not know is that I was projecting that negative energy onto my life. Instead of complaining of how unlucky I am, I should have been saying how lucky I am, and how life will bring what it needs.

That mindset takes time though, and patience for sure. As you can see it took me approximately….. 18 years.

I remember a long time ago, I think I was in elementary school my Dad had won a tv at a school raffle we had every year. I remember saying Dad has the best luck. And you know what I never heard him ever say I am unlucky, or something negative along those lines. He also always manages a front row parking spot… so now I always say I am going to get one, hasn’t worked yet, but I am still waiting it out. Trusting the process you could say

It’s all about the mindset baby.

Being lucky does not necessarily mean everything in your life magically appears and comes easy for you. No, being lucky also signifies allowing yourself to realize how lucky you are. Stop comparing yourself to others and think ugh, their life is better than mine, why cant I live like them.

No no no no, cut that out. Your life is so so valuable and if you want a new life just go for it. You really have no idea how capable you are, as cheesy as it might sound you can literally do anything. Just try, what’s the worst thing that could happen? You fail? Okay wasn’t meant to be onto the next! What is holding you back. What people think of you? Well guess what that literally does not matter at all. One day you will stop caring about how you appear to others and man is it freeing. Because once you start doing things for yourself that make you happy you’ll begin to see how truly lucky you are.

Stop thinking you have terrible luck, because guess what you really don’t (well you might but let’s pretend you don’t :)). Instead of focusing on all the bad luck you have focus on all the good luck life has brought you. From the little things to being accepted into a school. Start small and throughout your day I challenge you to think about how lucky you are. Even if you’re walking and see a pretty bird, think to yourself wow I am so lucky I had the chance to see that.

Might seem dumb at first, but once you start appreciating what is around you, you begin to appreciate your life more and more. Literally just think about how lucky you are to wake up, because not everyone gets that. Start small and expand into the bigger things, it will take time but trust me you will start to realize how lucky you truly are with the amazing gifts life has to offer, even something as small as a hug. Oh and happy Saint Pattys :)) cheers !!

xx

Kay